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		<title>Life without Social Networking</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I admit it, I am addicted to checking my Facebook page daily, if not on an hourly basis. It&#8217;s just so instantly rewarding&#8230; but in the depths of my mind, I can feel a swell of pity every time I log on. It&#8217;s the part of me that wonders why I find these status updates [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I admit it, I am addicted to checking my Facebook page daily, if not on an hourly basis. It&#8217;s just so instantly rewarding&#8230; but in the depths of my mind, I can feel a swell of pity every time I log on. It&#8217;s the part of me that wonders why I find these status updates so vital to my daily life that forced me try out a little experiment.</p>
<p>For a week, I see what life would be like without logging on to Facebook. I turned off all my notifications,  turned away when my girlfriend was logged on watering her virtual plants and avoided all temptation. At the end of the week, I wanted to identify a difference between the useful and non-useful things that social networking provides.</p>
<p><strong>Staying in touch</strong><br />
It turned out that there were only people that I stayed in touch with via Facebook, I didn&#8217;t have their current phone number or even email address. I don&#8217;t see this as a benefit of Facebook, but a lazy hook that they use to drag you in to their realm. There&#8217;s no reason that I shouldn&#8217;t have someone&#8217;s email address, they must have one to use the site in the first place, so the onus of this one is on me.</p>
<p><strong>Direct Contact<br />
<span style="font-weight: normal;">The only new direct information that I learnt was that 4 different people like the photos that I take and I also discovered that a youtube video that I thought was a fake, turned out to be&#8230; well&#8230; a fake. I understand that you have to give to receive, and maybe with a week of zero interaction, I couldn&#8217;t expect much, but  I have to ask; is the time invested in priming these responses really worth it? In the short term, I feel like I get some kind of reward from this feedback, but it feels like a can of diet soda; a nice sweet taste, with zero calories in the long run.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong>Useful information<br />
<span style="font-weight: normal;">Just news that my sister has a cold, and my girlfriends brother posted an interesting dance music blog. I was kind of hoping for more, since all week I&#8217;ve been teased with my girlfriends cute little snickering as she checked her profile. I had dreams of side-splitting anecdotes and golden nuggets of enlightenment, but there didn&#8217;t seem to be any. What I discovered instead, was a desire to add a few more people to my &#8216;hide&#8217; list, and that I will strive to post less throwaway comments.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="font-weight: normal;"><strong>The flip side</strong><br />
In my estimations, I must have diverted around 7 facebook hours, or if I stop lying to myself; 15 hours. So what did I do different this week, that I didn&#8217;t do for the past few months? I swam a kilometre at my local pool, went for a hygienist appointment at the dentist, took my cat to the vet to get spayed, created 6 new portraits (<a title="Cat Chappell" href="http://phineaskibbey.com/photography/cat-chappell/">cat chappell</a>, <a title="Kara Cabados" href="http://phineaskibbey.com/photography/kara-cabados/">kara cabados</a>, <a title="Phineas Kibbey" href="http://phineaskibbey.com/photography/phineas-kibbey/">phineas kibbey</a>, <a title="Sue Kibbey" href="http://phineaskibbey.com/photography/sue-kibbey/">sue kibbey</a>, <a title="Magnus Huckvale" href="http://phineaskibbey.com/photography/magnus-huckvale/">magnus huckvale</a>, <a title="DJ Bissen" href="http://phineaskibbey.com/photography/dj-bissen/">dj bissen</a>), and paid some attention to the neglected Guitar Hero that has been collecting ageing rocker skin cells in the corner.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="font-weight: normal;">I didn&#8217;t get a feeling of instant reward at first, where were the people telling me that they liked my photos, where was the feeling of satisfaction when taking my cat to a strange place to be poked and prodded? I learnt that the reward system that I&#8217;d become reliant on from Facebook was no more real than the rewards that I eventually derived from myself, but the one big difference, is that I was in control, not some external source. That I can live with.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="font-weight: normal;">I still agree with my previous post about <a title="How to waste your time" href="http://phineaskibbey.com/thought-patterns/the-meaning-of-life-or-how-to-waste-your-time/">life being how you choose to waste your time</a>, so if I was to say that choosing to do things other than check my posts at hourly intervals was any better than playing an imaginary guitar based video game, I&#8217;d be a hypocrite (oh wait, I am a human&#8230; isn&#8217;t it in our nature to subscribe to <a title="Hypocrisy" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypocrisy" target="_blank">Hypocrisy</a>?). All that happened this week, is that I chose to do something different, and I enjoyed it. In that sense it was a success. If you are so inclined, I suggest that you make up your own life experiments and put them into practice.</span></strong></p>
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